Just because things could be worse, doesn’t mean you need to wait for a crisis to change what’s no longer working. Over time, parts we don’t like about our life and habits that are draining our energy become tolerable. Instead of using our time to change what we don’t like, we use the time to learn how to tolerate, cope with, and manage them. We comfort ourselves by saying “it’s not that bad” and “it could be worse.” And yes, things could always be worse, but why wait for a crisis to change something that’s not working now? When we’re in a crisis mode, we don’t have the energy and emotional stamina to approach problems in a productive way. So don’t wait until you have no choice but to change. Honor the part of you that wants more out of life now. Working with a professional can be crucial because we can’t fully see ways in which we keep ourselves stuck and we can’t identify our own painful stories because we’re too attached to them. I would love to help! Check out my psychotherapy and coaching pages, or book a session and experience the power of coaching! As soon as you wake up, you are starting to create a momentum. You start creating energy that will persist throughout your entire day. If you’re not aware that you’re creating a momentum, it just means that you’re creating it by default. It means you’re letting random thoughts and feelings to dictate your internal experience and your actions. You’re unconsciously reacting and when you’re doing that, you’re creating a negative momentum. And once it gets going it takes great amount of energy and emotional resource to interrupt it and change it. Morning is the time when it’s the easiest to create on purpose instead of by default. Does your morning routine feel calm and grounding or chaotic? Is it setting you up for a great day or for overwhelm? Don’t overthink this. Don’t worry about having to do things like everyone else is suggesting. Think about how would you like to feel throughout the day and what would help you connect to that feeling as soon as you wake up. You don’t need to change your whole routine if that feels overwhelming. Introduce small changes and build on them A single session coaching can be help you to: Challenge your thinking Get a different perspective Understand the cause of your issue Problem solve & talk through a decision How it helps? When you’re stuck in a thinking loop that’s getting you further into suffering instead of out of it, an objective perspective can help disrupt that pattern and guide you towards a more productive mindset. What are the benefits? Receiving support when you're ready and open to it It's practical - there's no commitment to ongoing sessions It's convenient - you pick and self-schedule the time that works for you If you’re needing support through the stuck points without committing to weekly therapy/coaching OR suffering in silence, go here and book the day and time that works for you! You can only become your best self if given the right conditions, just like a seed has the potential to become the most beautiful, unique plant, but it doesn’t become so by force. It becomes so by being nurtured into it with proper care. No matter how hard you want a seed to grow, it won’t become a plant by force, will, or expectation. It won’t become a plant any faster that it’s meant to naturally. It will become it with consistent care, love, and nurturing. And if any of the ingredients is lacking, it will fail to thrive. It’s the same with us. Some of us feel stuck because we weren’t given proper conditions to thrive from the beginning. But even if that’s the case, we are not doomed to stay underdeveloped. The potential to thrive never leaves us. It can always be nurtured back to life. What ingredients do you need to thrive? We often believe that being hard on ourselves is the only way we can get to where we want to be. We think that if we loosen the grip, everything we worked hard for will crumble, and we will no longer be motivated. When you use the strategy of self-judgment, you can accomplish goals, but internally you will be in the same place. Your identity will still be wrapped up in self-judgment and shame. If you can learn how to pause when you first notice self-judgment, you are already starting to detach from it. When a part of you is able to be aware of it and observe it, you are not fused with it. From that place, being curious, compassionate, and understanding can arise. From a place of curiosity you will notice that it is not true that we need to push, pressure, and judge ourselves into progress. We are naturally growth oriented. Our true selves want to grow and fully express our capacities. We are the ones who are stopping that with our judgments. Get out of your own way. |
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