There are so many situation in which we had no choice as children. We simply lived by the rules we learned and adopted them as truths. As children, we didn’t have a choice but to be around people who kept hurting us, but as adult we do. Staying in situations and with people who are hurtful is an old rule we no longer need to live by.
There is no point at which someone tells that those rules no longer apply and we get to choose which ones we want to keep and which ones we want to let go. We often takes old principles to adulthood not fully realizing that we no longer have to stay in situations or around people that keep hurting us.
You may never grow and change in someone else’s mind. People may not want to give up the opinion they have of you. In their mind, you may always remain a one-dimensional character.
Once someone thinks they know you, they may never change their mind. Everything you say or do may be filtered through a well established opinion they have of you. It’s not your job to change their mind. You don’t need to prove anything to anybody.
What matters is whether you let yourself be who you want to be. What matters is that you don’t reduce yourself to one trait, one mistake, one opinion, or one interest. You can be so many different things at the same time.
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Each new day is bringing us a choice: to do the things we’ve always done (and if that works-keep doing more of that)… or to do something differently.
It’s not sufficient to make this choice one time and expect that now we will be a different person.
Change happens in cycles.
It’s necessary to keep reminding ourselves who we want to be and who we no longer want to be.
Who do I no longer want to be?
I heard this question being asked by Joe Dispenza on a podcast and used it as a journaling prompt this morning.
Hope you find it as powerful as I did.
Always ask yourself first. Questions about your life are not for anyone but you to answer. Decisions are yours to make and if those decisions take you down the path you don’t like, you can always make another decision.
Ask yourself: What do I really want? What feels like the right choice for me now? What am I pretending not to know?
Imagine as if you’re meeting yourself for the very first time and you have no idea what the answer is. Let the answer come to you instead of forcing it.