Like anything in life, self-improvement can be used either as a tool or a weapon. Self-improvement is one of those things that we can very sneakily turn into a never ending ending cycle of "becoming better."
While I do believe that personal growth and change are inevitable parts of life, pursuing them from a place of shame and self-judgment becomes a game we can't win, and that's because we can't shame ourselves into feeling good about ourselves. Feeling good about ourselves comes from a sense of safety and acceptance, not judgment and shame. Check in with yourself: Does desire for self-improvement and personal growth come from a place of excitement and self-honoring, or am I pursuing it because I don't feel worthy & enough as I am? Thinking about doing something is not the same as doing it.
The only way to become good at something is to simply do it. Not just think and dream about doing it, but actually do it, because there is no substitute for the experience. You can’t skip through the phases of first being bad at it, not knowing, falling, and learning, but the sooner you start, the sooner you’ll master it.
![]() Thinking about doing something is not the same as doing it. The only way to become good at something is to simply do it. Not just think and dream about doing it, but actually do it, because there is no substitute for the experience. You can’t skip through the phases of first being bad at it, not knowing, falling, and learning, but the sooner you start, the sooner you’ll become better at it. There are things you will have to go through and by waiting for the right time, you’re just prolonging these phases but you will have to learn them either way. |
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August 2023
AuthorSladja Redner |