Quitting is frequently seen as weak and undesirable, but here is a different perspective. Quitting things we've outgrown leaves us with energy available for things we enjoy. Click below to read my latest newsletter on quitting and subscribe to receive future newsletters. Read here: You Should Quit: How Letting Go Can Propel You Forward "When you don't know what to do - do nothing."
This was the advice that made me take a sigh of relief in a moment when I felt confused, overwhelmed, and couldn't see a path forward. I was swimming in so many different options my mind was offering me. Instead of clarity I felt uncertainty, confusion, and urgency to make a decision. Making a decision from a state of urgency and pressure is not wise. What is wise it to take time and let the dust settle and wait until one choice starts feeling like the right choice. When there is a pull, clarity, and calm towards one specific path, that's when it's time to take action. Our mind can often be like a harsh bully, ready to attack when we feel most vulnerable. It can make us feel weak and powerless.
Our mind follows a familiar script it's been given when we were young. It repeats those voices we heard most often, and will keep speaking to us the same way we were spoken to. But we don't have to believe everything it's telling us about us. When that harsh voice pops in and starts becoming loud and obnoxious, we can take a step back and just notice what it's telling us without immediately defending or believing the content of those words. We might even say to ourselves "oh that old story again, I've heard this before." We might ask, "what else is there?" When our predictable ways of responding to challenges don’t seem aligned with who we want to be, we have the ability to respond differently. When we're caught up in the moment, we don't give ourselves the space and the option to consider a different type of response, but that doesn't mean we are not capable of it. In order to respond differently, we simply need to give ourselves a bit of space and pause (something my client's often hear me say:)). In pause, we have the option to notice what we usually tend to do and then we have the option to decide if we actually want to that this particular time. We give ourselves a choice. Asking ourselves: How would a version of me that I aspire to be respond to this challenge? helps us zoom out of our habitual ways and be intentional in what we do and how we do it. Happy journaling! Sometimes we find ourselves in situations we've never been in before. In those moments we may feel lost, not having a map to tell us where to go and how to respond. If we choose to walk a new path, we become responsible for creating the map at the same time as we are trying to decide which way to go. This can initially feel unsettling and disorienting. But it can also feel liberating to know that we don't have to walk the same paths as we did in the past. We can throw away the old map, because we already know where it will take us. Let yourself feel lost and let yourself learn as you go. |
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April 2024
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