In moments of clarity, presence, and empowerment, we remember that we want more for ourselves. We don’t force this, it arises naturally. In those moments, we feel connected to a deep self-determination and desire to move forward. We become free from the limitations of our past, even if just for a moment.

In those moments, we feel free from shame and self-criticism. We stop defining ourselves by our limitations and instead allow ourselves to see a possibility of all we could be, do, and experience. We are in our true self. 

When we’re in this place, we support ourselves to dream big, create, be inspired, curious, compassionate, energized, and connected. We may decide that the way we currently live our life doesn’t fit us anymore. Maybe we set big goals and make promises to ourselves.

Also naturally, we disconnect from those moments, and go back to our usual ways of living that feel familiar and comfortable, yet constricting. Our conditioned self returns.

Maybe it doesn’t yet feel safe to be in the moments of presence and connection for too long. In these moments our conditioned self may tell us that those desires we felt so connected to in one moment, aren’t possible, or that they don’t happen to people like us, or that we are broken, or that we will fail because we failed in the past.

Our conditioned self is fearful of change and growth.

It wants to bring us back to the state of fear and complacency. That voice may sound like a voice of reason and it may be too loud to ignore. That voice will fight for our limitations and will want us to rebel against the promises we made to ourselves when we felt empowered.

In these moments, we have to remind that voice:

I’m doing this for me.
I’m choosing what supports me.
My true desires are coming from self-love. 
​It is safe and healthy to want more. 

One of the best ways to start the day is by journaling. It's a form of reflective and grounding practice that connects you deeper to the truth of who you are. But for many who struggle with overwhelm, stress, and worry, taking the time to slow down and journal feels difficult.
Interrupting the constant chatter in their mind may feel triggering and can bring up a lot of self-judgment. It may bring up thoughts like "I'm not good at it," "I don't have the time," I don't know what to write," "I've tried it in the past and in wasn't helpful," or "I have nothing to write about."

None of these thoughts are actually true, it's your mind coming up with ways to make it complicated and task oriented.

The key is to get started even if it's one sentence, a few bullet points, or even drawing. It can be anything you want it to be and there is no wrong way to do it as long as you're doing it.



​What are the benefits of a journaling practice?

• It declutters your mind
• Helps you make sense of your thoughts 
• Connects you to your desires, wishes, likes, dislikes
• It grounds you in the present moment
• It brings inner peace
• You don’t need to be “good at” writing in order to journal 
• You just need to be willing to give yourself the time and space
• It helps you generate ideas you didn't know you had

 
What to write?

• Literally anything that’s on your mind
• You can bitch and complain
• You can speak to the Universe and ask for guidance
• You can write about your likes and dislikes
• Share your desires and goals you’re afraid to share with anyone else
• Write about your fears
• Again, literally ANYTHING!

Accomplishing one thing is moving you forward more than wanting it all but doing nothing.

All or Nothing thinking is one of the biggest mindset traps and obstacles to growth and progress.

All or nothing thinking is a cop-out from trying. It is lazy thinking. It lacks flexibility and nuance. It pretends to be useful (“I want to do it the right way”) but it’s leading to self-sabotage and stagnation.

It may sound like…
“I don’t have time to workout an hour a day, so I’m not going to work out at all”
“If I can’t succeed the first time, I never will”
“I messed up one time, so what’s the point of continuing”
“One bad thing happened, now my whole day is ruined”
“I don’t have time to do it “the right way” so I’m going to wait.”
Or any variation of giving yourself only two options. Remember that completed is always better than perfect.

All of nothing thinking loses its power when we decide to focus on doing what we can do (no matter how small the step seems) instead of thinking about doing big things, but never acting on them because we’re waiting for perfect conditions.

Forget about doing it all, just do something. 

1.Is this something I truly want?
 
Sometimes we set goals from a place of pressure or expectation, not from our true desires. If that’s the case, working towards your goals will be fraught with stress and overwhelm, instead of excitement and internal motivation to strive forward. 
 
2.Do I really believe this is possible for me?
 
If a part of you doesn’t really believe you are capable or worthy of accomplishing this goal, you will subconsciously sabotage yourself to stay at the level you actually believe is realistic for you. Any time your will power is faced against a deep subconscious belief, your subconscious will win.
 
3.What are the stories I have around that goal?
 
We humans make meaning out of everything. As soon as you set a goal, all of your fears, objections, and expectations will come forward. Write them down. Notice the ones that feel disempowering and have a potential to move you further away from your goal.
 
4.How can I make this fun?
 
Goals you set are neutral until you make it either fun or stressful. You might be working on your goal for a while…how you want to feel while you work towards something
 
5.Why is this important to me?
 
Remember that you are doing this for you and be clear on why it matters to you. A meaningful reason “Why” is more likely to sustain you through the obstacles.