You may never grow and change in someone else’s mind. People may not want to give up the opinion they have of you. In their mind, you may always remain a one-dimensional character.
Once someone thinks they know you, they may never change their mind. Everything you say or do may be filtered through a well established opinion they have of you. It’s not your job to change their mind. You don’t need to prove anything to anybody.
What matters is whether you let yourself be who you want to be. What matters is that you don’t reduce yourself to one trait, one mistake, one opinion, or one interest. You can be so many different things at the same time.
If you found this helpful, you may enjoy What Will People Think? blog post.
First, you have to recognize that worrying is not productive or helpful. No amount of worrying can solve a problem. Worrying is a state of mind that produces anxiety and (plot twist) leads to move anxiety, not solutions.
My husband sometimes asks me: “Aren’t YOU worried?” And I’m like: ”Ummm no? But I could be if you think that’ll help!” That usually gets me an eye roll.
But seriously. Any problem is either something you have control over or you don’t.
That leads me to my second, and last, point. Distinguish if you have control over the problem or not.
If you do, the question is:
Are you willing to do something about it? And "What are you willing to do about it?"
If you don’t have control over it, any combination of surrender, hope, and pray will do.
Want more tips like this? Read this post about stuckness!
Say “yes” to invitations that require you to be brave even if you don’t feel ready.
We don't fully create our future on our own. We are co-creators. There’s a part of our life that’s out of our hands. The part we have no control over. But we can take the part that’s in our hands and do the best we can with it.
The way you can predict your future is by observing how, where, and with whom you spend your time today. Your future is a direct response to the thoughts you feed and actions you take today.
So even though we are co-creating, it’s not completely true that we can’t predict our future. For example…
By observing your thoughts and the way you talk to yourself, you can predict how you will fee. By noticing how you feel, you can predict what actions you will take. Depending on actions you take, you can predict what kind of reality you will create.
Take a moment to consider: