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Staying Around People Who Are Hurtful is an Old Rule

2/6/2023

 
​There are so many situation in which we had no choice as children. We simply lived by the rules we learned and adopted them as truths. As children, we didn’t have a choice but to be around people who kept hurting us, but as adult we do. Staying in situations and with people who are hurtful is an old rule we no longer need to live by.
There is no point at which someone tells that those rules no longer apply and we get to choose which ones we want to keep and which ones we want to let go. We often takes old principles to adulthood not fully realizing that we no longer have to stay in situations or around people that keep hurting us. 

How to Stop Worrying

2/1/2023

 
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First, you have to recognize that worrying is not productive or helpful. No amount of worrying can solve a problem. Worrying is a state of mind that produces anxiety and (plot twist) leads to move anxiety, not solutions. 

My husband sometimes asks me: “Aren’t YOU worried?” And I’m like: ”Ummm no? But I could be if you think that’ll help!” That usually gets me an eye roll.

But seriously. Any problem is either something you have control over or you don’t. 

That leads me to my second, and last, point. Distinguish if you have control over the problem or not. 


If you do, the question is:

Are you willing to do something about it?  And "What are you willing to do about it?"


If you don’t have control over it, any combination of surrender, hope, and pray will do.

Want more tips like this? Read this post about stuckness!



Do More Things That Give You Energy!

1/25/2023

 
We often organize our lives in ways that drain our energy and kill our creativity and zest for life.

  • How might you be doing that? 
  • What’s an activity that keeps sucking the life out of you, yet you keep doing it? 
  • What lights you up, yet you can’t seem to *find* time to do it?
Guess what?
Extra days and hours won’t magically appear. You’ll have prioritize things that really matter to you and fill the rest in.

We Become Good at What We Practice

1/23/2023

 
Empowering self-talk has to be an intentional practice before it becomes a habit. If you commit to lifting yourself up daily, it will become your internal voice.
 
We become good at things we do (practice) each day.
 
Whether that’s the way we talk to ourselves, what we believe, what we think, feel, and do…
 
It’s all part of the blueprint we practiced over and over.
 
If something doesn’t come naturally to you, doesn’t means it’s not who you are. It means you haven’t done it enough.
 
Be patient. Don’t expect to miraculously shift deep seated beliefs and negative self-talk.
 
Be committed. Keep practicing what you DO want.
 
Be kind to yourself. Recognize how self-honoring it is to grow and improve.
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