If you say things like:
It’s going to be hard
It’ll take a long time
I don’t know how
I shouldn’t…
It’s going to be overwhelming, uncomfortable, scary, etc.
It always ends the same way
I already know that
It’s just who I am
It’s always the same thing
I just can’t seem to…
 
If you say these things to yourself, you already decided.
 
You’re not allowing yourself to be in the unknown, so you’ve decided that you already know how it will go and what you’re capable of.
 
But your decisions are made based on past experiences and they are likely not intentional decisions.

• If you didn’t use your past to define yourself, what would you want to believe about yourself and your capacities?​
  
• If you could (and you absolutely can) decide intentionally, what would you want to believe instead?

Why can’t you be the first one?
 
Just because no one around you took risks and opportunities, or decided to go against the grain, doesn’t mean your path can’t be different. If you grew up without seeing examples of the life and accomplishments you’re dreaming of, be the first one to do it!
 
If you know you could do more with your life, instead of being paralyzed by not knowing what or how, just take any step. Just make one decision that feels right and see where it takes you. If that turns out not to be your path, you will know!
 
Instead of living with regret and asking yourself “what if...”

• Why not try to be all that you can be?
• Why not push the boundaries of what others tell you is possible?

Fears may be driving many behaviors and thoughts that prevent us from engaging in full living.
 
Oftentimes, we feel drawn to something that seeks expression in our life, but then, fear comes up and we interpret it as a sign that we should stay complacent.
 
Taking a leap towards something new will always bring a healthy dose of fear, because it is uncertain. Some ways in which fear shows up, are: confusion, perfectionism, avoidance, anger, overwhelm, etc.
 
Every time something scares us, it is a sign we are stretching ourselves out of our comfort zone, and every time we feel fear, it is showing us our next growth opportunity.
 
Questions to reflect on:

• Where is my fear pointing me towards right now?
  
• How do my fears stop me from growing into my most authentic self?
  
• Am I guided by fears or my purpose and meaning?

​Quitting is always an option, but before you choose that option, make sure:

You know why you’re doing it. Knowing the reason makes it a conscious choice, instead of it being driven by a subconscious fear or an assumption. 

You feel good about your ‘why.’ If you like the reason why you're quitting, it is less likely that you will regret your decision. If you like your reasons, it is an authentic decision, which will always lead you towards something greater. 

I do believe there are a bad reasons for quitting on something that is important to us. "Bad" reasons come from assumptions we hold about how something should be. 

Here are some of the bad reason to quit on your goals:

·      You’ve never done that before
·      You're not seeing progress in a timeline you expected
·      It is out of your comfort zone
·      You had your 1st or 10th set back
·      It is challenging/demanding
·      Judgments & opinions of others

Always ask yourself 'why,' and make sure it's a worthwhile reason.