​You may never grow and change in someone else’s mind. People may not want to give up the opinion they have of you. In their mind, you may always remain a one-dimensional character.
 
Once someone thinks they know you, they may never change their mind. Everything you say or do may be filtered through a well established opinion they have of you. It’s not your job to change their mind. You don’t need to prove anything to anybody.
 
What matters is whether you let yourself be who you want to be. What matters is that you don’t reduce yourself to one trait, one mistake, one opinion, or one interest. You can be so many different things at the same time.

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​Personal growth, whether it’s trough self-healing, coaching, or therapy is about unlearning what no longer supports you, returning to your own knowing, and becoming more of your true self.
 
It is about discovering who you could be when not guided by past conditioning and adaptations that were once helpful.
 
Feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or unfulfilled are not so much problems to be patched up as they are invitations to see what needs to be attended to.
 
As adults we are continuously pulled and called towards fulfillment, curiosity, creativity, and meaning.
 
The question is whether we will ignore the call or respond to it and fully show up for ourselves.

What if you decided that:

• Fear of looking stupid won’t hold you back anymore?
  
• Potential failure isn’t a good reason not to try?
  
• Your greatest experiences are ahead of you?

 
We can make ourselves believe anything. For most people, negative beliefs come easier and feel more believable. But no matter how long we practiced our negative beliefs, they can be changed.
 

• What do you wish you can just decide to believe?
  
• What is stopping you to believe it now?

Stuckness is a state of mind, not a fact.
 
Maybe you are at crossroads, having to choose which way to go.

Maybe you’re standing still because you’re scared to make a decision and the longer you’re waiting and negotiating your options, the more stuck you feel.
 
Stuckness may feel safe, but it’s an illusion of safety. It may even be comfortable because it comes with no risks, rejections, or failures.

But as soon as you pick a direction (any direction) and make a decision, you will no longer feel stuck.
 
Be honest with yourself.

Let yourself know what you are scared of.

Name the choices you have.

Connect to the feeling of each choice.

​Remember that when things don’t turn out the way you hoped, you can always make a new decision. You are not a tree, you’re never really stuck. You always have the power to re-decide and choose your direction.