When thinking about my guiding word for the new year, I usually go with a feeling I want to invite or experience more often.
But a word that kept spontaneously coming up for me was - less.
And the longer I sat with it, the more it spoke to me.
Less of what?
Less commitments that create busyness but leave me feeling exhausted and unfulfilled.
Less things that fill up my space, but don’t bring me joy. Less obligations that fill up my calendar but make me feel drained.
When we engage in therapy, we are encouraged to open up and share our thoughts and feelings.
However, there are moments when we struggle to find the right words or fear the vulnerability that comes with sharing certain experiences.
Sometimes, our silence stems from a fear of judgment or rejection. We may hesitate to voice our true thoughts because we worry about the consequences or how others might perceive us.
Check in with yourself:
Lately I’ve been reflecting on a concept we talked about in my life coach training: “There is not better than here.”
To me this is a reminder that no matter what we accomplish in life, we will experience sadness, pain, grief, desire, etc…
We have these imaginary arrival points where we think we will transcend struggle or discomfort or growth. But I think these are our companions for the rest of our life, to some degree, and that is ok.
So when I’m impatient to get ‘there’ (whatever ‘there’ is at a different period of my life) I try to remember that getting ‘there’ doesn’t mean everything will be better, it will just be different.*
We are not meant to live in states of overwhelm, anxiety, and lethargy.
We are meant to grow, learn, and evolve through our challenges, not be defeated by them.
We naturally long for playfulness, ease, connection, and meaning. Our desire for these experiences is not to be judged, dismissed, or ignored, but honored and followed.
If you notice that you live daily in states of anxiety, overwhelm, stress, lethargy, depression, etc. consider finding professional help.
Your mind, body, and soul want to free themselves from these energy sucking states and want to soar into a more fun and relaxed way of living.