True answers come to us from peace and clarity, not anxiety.
Most of us spend way more time feeding our anxieties and negative predictions than we spend nurturing our possibilities.
Anxious mind is trying to analyze, overthink, predict, and solve all sorts of imagined problems and by doing so, it creates more of them. It creates inflexibility and limits our choices.
When we’re in the state of anxiety, we’re not able to resolve or make sense of anything, because we’re not able to see the situation clearly. We’re s feeding the negative predictions and we’re trying to protect ourselves from them.
True answers don’t come from anxiety, but from inner peace and clarity. Clarity, unlike anxiety, show us choices, flexibility, and possibilities. It leads us to the most loving answer even if that answer is uncomfortable.
How to Stop Worrying
First, you have to recognize that worrying is not productive or helpful. No amount of worrying can solve a problem. Worrying is a state of mind that produces anxiety and (plot twist) leads to move anxiety, not solutions.
My husband sometimes asks me: “Aren’t YOU worried?” And I’m like: ”Ummm no? But I could be if you think that’ll help!” That usually gets me an eye roll.
But seriously. Any problem is either something you have control over or you don’t.
That leads me to my second, and last, point. Distinguish if you have control over the problem or not.
If you do, the question is:
Are you willing to do something about it? And "What are you willing to do about it?"
If you don’t have control over it, any combination of surrender, hope, and pray will do.
Want more tips like this? Read this post about stuckness!
Your Biggest Adventures Are Ahead of You
If you believed your greatest experiences are in front of you, instead of behind you...
° How would you show up for yourself?
° What decisions would you make today?
° How would you feel about your life?
When we’re young, the belief that our greatest adventures are yet to happen, comes naturally to us. But over time we start limiting ourselves more and more.
Approaching life with a sense of wonder gets lost over time.
We become fearful of the unknown instead of excited by it.
At some point, we decide that we should have accomplished certain things already and then we stop trying.
Seeking out new experiences doesn’t have to end at a certain age. We can always find something to look forward to. We can choose to nurture our sense of excitement and allow ourselves to dream until we die.
Note to Self
Don’t borrow time from the present moment to create suffering for yourself.
We dwell in the past, regret our ‘bad’ choices, replay painful events, or escape into the future.
Each time we think about past we are taking the time from the present moment and we are forcing ourselves re-live it and feel the pain of it.
A big part of healing is being able to live more fully in the moment, rather than from the memories of the past.