Fears may be driving many behaviors and thoughts that prevent us from engaging in full living.
Oftentimes, we feel drawn to something that seeks expression in our life, but then, fear comes up and we interpret it as a sign that we should stay complacent.
Taking a leap towards something new will always bring a healthy dose of fear, because it is uncertain. Some ways in which fear shows up, are: confusion, perfectionism, avoidance, anger, overwhelm, etc.
Every time something scares us, it is a sign we are stretching ourselves out of our comfort zone, and every time we feel fear, it is showing us our next growth opportunity.
Questions to reflect on:
Quitting is always an option, but before you choose that option, make sure:
You know why you’re doing it. Knowing the reason makes it a conscious choice, instead of it being driven by a subconscious fear or an assumption.
You feel good about your ‘why.’ If you like the reason why you're quitting, it is less likely that you will regret your decision. If you like your reasons, it is an authentic decision, which will always lead you towards something greater.
I do believe there are a bad reasons for quitting on something that is important to us. "Bad" reasons come from assumptions we hold about how something should be.
Here are some of the bad reason to quit on your goals:
· You’ve never done that before
· You're not seeing progress in a timeline you expected
· It is out of your comfort zone
· You had your 1st or 10th set back
· It is challenging/demanding
· Judgments & opinions of others
Always ask yourself 'why,' and make sure it's a worthwhile reason.
The moment we believe we know everything about ourselves, we stop learning and being curious. Self inquiry and curiosity are some of the most powerful tools for healing and growth, because they challenge our assumptions and rigid beliefs we hold about ourselves - often beliefs that are hurting us.
When we don’t question our disempowering beliefs, we mistake them for truths about who we really are. But these beliefs are never who we are, they are learned as a response to deep wounding.
No matter what kind of wounds have been inflicted upon us in the past, our wise, authentic, curious, and compassionate self is always there because THAT is who we are. It is merely overshadowed by the hurtful beliefs.
In the moments of pause, reflection, and curiosity, we are able to connect to a choice between living and responding from our wounds or our wisdom.