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Think about a time when you made a decision with such ease and clarity that it didn't feel like decision. It felt like the only right option. It aligned with your head, with your body, and with your soul - it was a "whole body yes!" type of response.
A “whole body yes” is important because it signifies a deep, comprehensive agreement or commitment to an action or decision. This means that all parts of yourself—intellect, emotions, intuition, and physical responses—are aligned and in harmony. Here are some key reasons why this is important: 1. Authenticity: A whole body yes reflects true agreement, ensuring that you are acting in accordance with your genuine desires and values, rather than external pressures or obligations. 2. Commitment: When your entire being is aligned with a decision, you are more likely to fully commit and follow through, as opposed to feeling ambivalent or conflicted. 3. Well-being: Ignoring any part of your internal feedback (such as gut feelings or emotional reactions) can lead to stress, discomfort, or burnout. A whole body yes helps ensure decisions are in line with your overall well-being. 4. Clarity: It provides clarity and confidence, reducing doubts and second-guessing. This clear sense of direction can enhance decision-making and goal achievement. 5. Energy: When your mind, heart, and body are in agreement, your energy is directed efficiently and effectively, reducing internal conflicts and enhancing focus and productivity. 6. Relationships: Communicating and acting from a place of complete agreement fosters trust and integrity in relationships, as others can sense your genuine commitment and authenticity. In essence, a whole body yes is about holistic alignment, ensuring that all aspects of yourself are in sync with the decisions and actions you take, leading to more fulfilling and sustainable outcomes. Next time when you're faced with a choice, do a check-in with yourself and see if any part of you is resisting or feels pulled towards a specific option. Don't think about it too much, rather notice what your initial response is telling you.  When our predictable ways of responding to challenges don’t seem aligned with who we want to be, we have the ability to respond differently. When we're caught up in the moment, we don't give ourselves the space and the option to consider a different type of response, but that doesn't mean we are not capable of it.
In order to respond differently, we simply need to give ourselves a bit of space and pause (something my client's often hear me say:)). In pause, we have the option to notice what we usually tend to do and then we have the option to decide if we actually want to that this particular time. We give ourselves a choice. Asking ourselves: How would a version of me that I aspire to be respond to this challenge? helps us zoom out of our habitual ways and be intentional in what we do and how we do it. Happy journaling! When we approach personal growth from a place of shame and self-judgment, we move further away from its intention and the whole process may start feeling like a self-punishment and a never-ending quest for “improvement.”
Here are a few things to remember: 1. Be patient - there is no place of arrival 2. Find a way to truly enjoy the process 3. Don’t measure your progress by where someone else is 4. A part of you may not want to change - try to understand why 5. You can get to the same place by motivating or criticizing yourself  Don’t wait for a major change.
Instead, focus on the small things that can be completed today and will make tomorrow easier. Look around you and focus on what’s unfinished. For example:
Just start with where you are.  When it comes to tips on confidence, you've probably heard of the good old advice to "fake till you make it."
This requires you to will yourself into it and pretend that you feel something you don't really feel. I'm not saying this is a bad advice as it may work for some people. But what if all this focusing on wanting to be more confident keeps you in the constant search of it? That search perpetuates the belief that you don't have it, because we only search for what we lack. I believe there is something more powerful and important than confidence, and that is desire. The key to being more confident is to stop focusing so hard on confidence (or lack thereof) and focus on something within you that already exists, and that is, desire. The strength of your desire will always trump the lack of confidence. Think about the times in your life you did something bold, scary, or uncertain. Did you always feel confident? Probably not! But you still did it. Why? Because your desire was so much stronger than your fear or insecurity that it didn’t matter if you did it scared. If you are in a place where you’re waiting around to feel more confident or you feel like you're holding yourself back because you think you need to be more confident fist, I invite to stop focusing on confidence and instead start focusing on your desire. Really think about what is it that you want and why you want it? Let that lead you. Really let yourself connect to the feeling of bringing that desire into reality. Want to read more posts about desire? Check out this post! |
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