​​“Paradoxically, the more we try to change ourselves, the more we prevent change from occurring.
​On the other hand, the more we allow ourselves to fully experience who we are,
the greater the possibility of change.”
~ Laurence Heller 

COMPLEX TRAUMA
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Many of the issues I work with tend to be rooted in growing up in dysfunctional families, and having experienced childhood emotional neglect & developmental (complex) trauma.

​Developmental trauma does not only refer to one time, traumatic event, but it also includes: rejection, constant criticism, invalidation, rarely feeling understood, important, and valued, or experiencing family dynamics in which you felt more like a parent than a child. 

If you grew up with overly critical, cold, emotionally abusive or neglectful parents, not having your needs met, being constantly dismissed, belittled, or ignored, or made feel small and unimportant, you learned to adapt in the best ways you could at the time. 

Although life saving in childhood, these adaptations create constrictions that get in a ways of self-trust, fulfillment, and authenticity in our adult lives. 

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Through difficult experiences you learn ways of disconnecting from your true self, dim your light, abandon yourself, and learn who you need to become in order to be accepted and loved. ​​

Later in life, this disconnection resurfaces in some of the following ways: 

~ Hypervigilance  & overwhelm

~ Feeling unworthy & broken 

~ Perfectionism tendencies

~ Turbulent relationships
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~ Relying on others for guidance
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~ Negative self-image & insecurity

~ Self-doubt & self-criticism

~ Feeling somehow different from others

~ Restlessness & inability to relax

If you feel ready to free yourself from the past, heal, & live in the present, please reach out!

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