Don’t get stuck in forcing solutions that don’t work for you. Even if one way of doing things seemed to be life changing for some people, it doesn’t mean it has to work for you. It either does, or it doesn’t. And if it doesn’t - it’s ok to move on without incessantly questioning yourself and forcing yourself to fit into a solution that's not meant for you.
Throughout the day, we have so many opportunities to drift away from our center - from who we are, what we value, desire, and need. We are constantly met by other people's thoughts, opinions, suggestions, and directives that can move us further and further away from who we are. We are told how we should be, what we should think, what we should eat, how we should spend our time, what we should strive for, what to be insulted by, and so on... And once we're pulled from our center, it takes a lot of effort to come back to it and put our anchor down. What makes coming back to the center easier is knowing what it feels like once we are centered. Questions to reflect on:
Sometimes the desire to annihilate parts of ourselves is disguised under the idea of healing. But healing doesn't mean to eradicate parts we see as bad, shameful, or unlovable. Healing includes acknowledging that those parts emerged out of necessity and protection at the time we didn't have other choices AND that we no longer need them in the same capacity as we did in the past. So instead of putting our efforts towards hiding, fixing, or removing those parts, we get to understand them and create a less dependent relationship to them. We tend to feel lost when we find ourselves in places we haven't been before. Whether we're trying to embrace a different state of mind or we're leaving a place of comfort, novelty tends to feel scary, like it's something we need protection from. And when we feel lost, we tell ourselves "This is a problem - I shouldn't feel this way."
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March 2024
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