Lately I’ve been reflecting on a concept we talked about in my life coach training: “There is not better than here.”
To me this is a reminder that no matter what we accomplish in life, we will experience sadness, pain, grief, desire, etc… We have these imaginary arrival points where we think we will transcend struggle or discomfort or growth. But I think these are our companions for the rest of our life, to some degree, and that is ok. So when I’m impatient to get ‘there’ (whatever ‘there’ is at a different period of my life) I try to remember that getting ‘there’ doesn’t mean everything will be better, it will just be different.* Any moment we interpret as bad or undesirable can be just that - a moment. When we feed that moment and prolong it by continuing to think about it, we turn it into a bad day, a bad week, month, and year. You don't have to carry it with you like heavy baggage. Let it be and let it go.
Wellbeing practice can be anything that supports a greater mental strength and helps you feel anchored to yourself. The most challenging thing about these practices is remembering to actually do them and to be present with the experience. These are not meant to feel like a chore or yet another thing on your to do list, so pick a practice that you will look forward to engaging in. Here are 5 simple ideas anyone can do daily. 1. Upon awaking, take a few minutes to get in touch with how you want to feel during the day. Remind yourself of that feeling throughout the day. 2. Listen to or read something uplifting and inspirational. Write down parts that resonate with you so you can keep revisiting them. 3. Spend time in nature/outdoors even if just for a few minutes. 4. Reflect on & celebrate a win from the past week/month. Think about what makes it so meaningful? 5. Detach from negative moods and thoughts by writing them down. You don't have to take them with you everywhere you go. Some questions can only be answered by the future you.
Questions like… 👉 “Will it be worth it?” 👉 “Am I making the right decision?” or 👉 “Is this where I’m supposed to go next?” … can only be answered in the future. If you’re struggling to find answers, ask yourself: Is this a question for the future me?
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