We often burden ourselves to know what someone else is thinking and feeling.
We project our past experiences on the person in front of us and assume we know how they might respond, what they might think, and how they might behave. When we try to predict and assume, we don't give ourselves the opportunity to respond in new ways, to have a different interaction with them, and to learn something new about the person in front of us. Next time you start assuming how a specific conversation will go or what someone might be thinking, challenge yourself to be open minded and curious. Give both of you the opportunity to show up as people you are now by asking more and assuming less! Just because things could be worse, doesn’t mean you need to wait for a crisis to change what’s no longer working. Over time, parts we don’t like about our life and habits that are draining our energy become tolerable. Instead of using our time to change what we don’t like, we use the time to learn how to tolerate, cope with, and manage them. We comfort ourselves by saying “it’s not that bad” and “it could be worse.” And yes, things could always be worse, but why wait for a crisis to change something that’s not working now? When we’re in a crisis mode, we don’t have the energy and emotional stamina to approach problems in a productive way. So don’t wait until you have no choice but to change. Honor the part of you that wants more out of life now. Working with a professional can be crucial because we can’t fully see ways in which we keep ourselves stuck and we can’t identify our own painful stories because we’re too attached to them. I would love to help! Check out my psychotherapy and coaching pages, or book a session and experience the power of coaching! One of the most frequent oppositions to journaling is "I don't know what to write" and "I'm not good at writing." Here is my answer to this. First, you don't need to know what to write, you just need to begin anywhere and the writing will unfold and take you where it wants to take you. Journaling can be about writing down your thoughts and letting go of the clutter in your mind. It can be about intentionally bringing yourself into a positive mood, inspiring yourself, and talking yourself up. It can be about writing down your feelings, frustrations, and questions about big and small things in life. There is no right or wrong way when it comes to journaling. Second, journaling is not for those who deem themselves good writers - it's for everyone! You absolutely do not need to be good at writing. No one is going to read this. This is just for you, and I often suggest for people to not even read it. You may just want to write it and forget it. Here are a few journaling prompts for connecting to your desires. It would wonderful if… It’s time for me to let go of… It’s time for me to embrace… These prompts will help you journal your way into a positive mindset by shifting your awareness towards experiences that create internal states of peace, joy, creativity, and excitement. |
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