When things don’t turn out the way we expected, maybe nothing has gone wrong.
Maybe everything is falling into its place, but we can’t see it because we’re too attached to the outcome we wanted. It could be life’s way of inviting us to let go of the self-exposed expectations and stop forcing an outcome we thought would make us happy. Maybe we’re being invited to learn a lesson that’s meant for us and trust that somehow everything that is happening is actually for our benefit. Don't decide too soon that it's not working.
The seed you planted won’t grow if you keep digging it out to see if it’s growing. Similarly - doubt, judgment, and pressure don’t give us the results we want any faster. Trust does. So whatever it is that you’re creating and bringing to life, keep taking care of it, keep giving it the optimal conditions for growth, and trust that it’s working. A big part of life is recognizing when it's time to let go of certain things so we can let in something new, more fulfilling to take its place. A journaling prompt I love (particularly when I feel weighed down) is "What do I want to let go of?" or "What is weighing me down?" Think about the things, beliefs, opinions, feelings, memories, regrets, experiences, people, habits, etc. that feel heavy, burdensome, and unnecessary. Let yourself write until nothing else comes to mind. Notice how you feel after putting those burdens down. Let yourself be in this lighter state, and from that place ask yourself, "What do I want to let in?" or "What do I want more of?" Let all the things, beliefs, opinions, feelings, memories, regrets, experiences, people, habits, you would love to let in come to you. You don't need to force answers, rather let them arise from this unburdened state you're in. Notice how it feels to let in all that goodness. Until you are kind towards yourself, you won’t be able to be honest with yourself. Until you’re honest with yourself, you won’t be able to take responsibility for your life. Until you’re willing to take responsibility for your life, you’ll be stuck in the same place.
Don’t wait for a major change. Instead, focus on the small things that can be completed today and will make tomorrow easier. Look around you and focus on what’s unfinished. For example:
Just start with where you are. |
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April 2024
AuthorSladja Redner |