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My Year Of No Goals & Soft Living
This year I’ve been doing some things differently. For starters, I didn’t set any goals or intentions. No word of the year.
13 Habits to Ghost in Your 30s and Beyond
Feeling stuck, drained, or low-key resentful entering your 30s? It might be time to ghost a few sneaky habits that are holding you back. This no-fluff guide breaks down 13 habits to break up with—for more peace, power, and self-respect.
Good Decisions Are Inconvenient Decisions
We tend to think that making the "right" decision should feel good—clear, affirming, maybe even a little empowering. But the truth is, good decisions are often inconvenient. They interrupt our comfort, require effort, and ask us to tolerate discomfort in the service of something more meaningful. Whether it's setting a boundary, committing to therapy, or choosing rest over productivity, the choices that move us forward rarely come wrapped in ease. But that doesn’t mean they’re wrong—it usually means they matter.
The Trap of Labels and Self-Definitions
We’re not meant to stay the same—but our self-definitions often keep us stuck. In this post, we explore how labels and identities, even the ones we choose, can quietly limit growth, creativity, and connection. If you’ve ever felt trapped by who you used to be, this is your invitation to let yourself evolve.
Or Maybe You Just Got Lucky?!
Success isn’t just about hard work—it’s also about timing, privilege, and straight-up luck. This blog post breaks the myth that you alone can manufacture your dream life. Sometimes, you just got lucky—and that’s the part no one likes to admit.
A Chill Path to Success For Empaths, Old Souls, And Intuitives
Feeling burnt out by hustle culture? If you’re an empath, old soul, or intuitive woman, you might be wired for a different kind of success—one rooted in alignment, ease, and soul, not pressure and performance. This post is your permission slip to stop forcing and start flowing.
The Healing Power of Rest And Doing Less: Slowing Down is Essential for Trauma Recovery
When it comes to healing from trauma, many people feel an overwhelming urge to “fix” themselves and get through it. The initial reaction is often to do more—to read every book, attend every workshop, and analyze every moment of their past in an effort to move beyond it. While education and active self-reflection have their place in making sense of what happened, one of the most underrated aspects of healing is the exact opposite: resting, doing less, and slowing down.
When Resentment Speaks: What It’s Telling You (and Why It’s Important To Listen)
Feeling resentful? Resentment is more than just frustration—it’s a signal that something important is being overlooked, suppressed, or crossed. In this post, we explore what causes resentment, why it’s emotionally and relationally dangerous, and how to respond when it shows up. Learn how to identify the roots of your resentment, set healthier boundaries, and reclaim your inner peace.
Life Is a Distraction Between Two Great Mysteries: Finding Meaning When You Feel Stuck
In the modern world, we’re constantly pulled in a hundred directions. Work. Family. Social media. The news. The pressure to do something meaningful. But what if meaning isn’t something you achieve—what if it’s something already present needed to be noticed?
Is It Midlife Crisis or You’re Just Done Pretending?
What you might feeling is not a breakdown, but a beginning of your second life. And like any beginning, it can feel disorienting. You might find yourself questioning your career, your relationships, your routines. You might feel a growing ache to leave behind strategies that once helped you survive but now keep you stuck—like over-functioning, people-pleasing, or constantly proving your worth.
Why Do I feel Guilty When I Put Myself First?
Feel guilty for choosing yourself? This post unpacks how guilt often disguises as morality, and how to trust your truth anyways.
Why Trying to Feel Better Can Feel Worse
Each time we turn away from what we’re feeling, we reinforce the belief that certain emotions are dangerous, shameful, or intolerable. That avoidance becomes our nervous system’s go-to strategy, and over time, it makes the inner world feel more hostile than it really is. You start to feel anxious about your anxiety. Sad about your sadness. Disappointed in your disappointment. And then you wonder why you feel stuck.
6 Steps to Mindfully Disrupt Autopilot Mode - A Daily Practice
Most of us move through our days on autopilot more than we realize — thinking the same thoughts, reacting the same ways, and repeating patterns without even noticing. While this can help us get through routine tasks, it also means we can easily become entangled in our thoughts, identifying with them as truth. The problem is, left unchecked, autopilot keeps us stuck in familiar habits, even when they’re not serving us. Disrupting this automatic mode isn’t something that happens by accident; it requires intentional practice.
Just Because You’re in Therapy Doesn’t Mean You Have to Change
Therapy isn't about flipping our lives upside down. It's about exploring, getting curious, and creating the conditions where real change might happen — if and when we're ready. It's about understanding our motivations, desires, and our real selves. Change threatens what we know, what we've built, what feels familiar — even if what we know isn't authentic or comfortable. Our adaptations and defenses have been carefully crafted and cemented over a lifetime. They're not flaws. They're ingenious survival strategies. They've kept us safe, functional, and adaptive (even when it doesn't feel that way).
Do I need Therapy?
Therapy is often thought of as a resource for people going through a major upheaval, but the truth is that nearly anyone can benefit from talking to a therapist. People come to therapy for many different reasons, and not everyone is in the same place when it comes to their willingness to change. Whether you’re looking to address specific issues or just seeking a safe space to reflect, therapy can offer valuable support.
The Magic of Continued Learning And Being a Beginner
Learning new things—especially things we’re not already good at—activates different parts of the brain, strengthens neural pathways, and even promotes the growth of new ones. Yep, neuroplasticity is real, and it means our brains are far more adaptable than we give them credit for.
Single Session Coaching in Austin: Personalized Support When You Need It Most
Not everyone needs ongoing, weekly therapy to feel grounded and supported. In fact, many people go through seasons of life where things are mostly okay—but every now and then, something shifts. Maybe it’s a looming decision. An unexpected life shift. Or maybe you just feel stuck in your head and need a sounding board or an unbiased perspective. This why as-needed or single-session coaching can be the perfect support.
Making Sense of and Moving Through Emotional Triggers
What are emotional triggers? How to know our own and make sure we don’t respond to the world from them.
It's Not What You Say, It's What You Do: The Importance of Aligning Words With Actions
Words hold a lot of power. They can comfort, inspire, and shape our narratives. But what often matters way more that words, are our actions - things we actually do to give weight to our words. Think about how often people try to convince others (or even themselves) of a truth through words alone. “I love you.” “I care about my health.” “I want to change.” These are powerful statements, but what happens when the actions that follow don’t match? Words can create a story, but actions build the reality.
De-Centering What No Longer Serves You: Reclaiming Your Life from Unconscious Attachments
De-centering is the process of recognizing what we have placed at the core of our lives—and deciding whether it is truly serving us. It’s not always something we consciously choose, yet each of us orbits around a central theme, belief, or pursuit that dictates how we make decisions, measure our worth, and structure our days. Often, this center is something we assume will fill the gap and bring us what we most long for—a relationship, success, financial security, approval, personal growth—but in reality, it can become an invisible force that keeps us trapped in a cycle of striving, waiting, or self-judgment.