​Here are some simple yet powerful reframes on phrases most of us use on daily basis without too much thinking. 
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• I should -> I could… but do I want to?
• I have to -> I get to!
• ​They made me feel -> My feelings are my responsibility
• I don’t know how … -> How can I …?

Be mindful of the words you speak to define yourself and your situation. What you tell yourself is more often than not, not a fact. It’s simply a story. If it’s a painful one - change it or reframe it.

Reframing is not lying to yourself, it’s choosing to look at things from a different perspective!

I have a vivid memory of the time I said something that, in the past would take me into a full shame and self-judgment spiral. But that time, there was lightness about it. I couldn't stop laughing at myself.

I felt that something was different about me. Unlike previous times, I didn't feel like that moment defined me in any way or that it made me flawed or broken. It was just a funny moment.

This moment made me think of other ways in which healing and growth shows up internally. 

• Laughing at ourselves, taking things less seriously & personally

• Seeking out more pleasure, fun, and joy

• Being more creative, spontaneous, and open-minded

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• Giving yourself more choices

 
As we heal, we stop using all of our energy to control situations and to protect ourselves from perceived dangers.
 
And the less we do that, we have more energy (life force) to create and connect to experiences that are light and enjoyable.
 
We understand that our ‘mistakes’ don’t make us less worthy, capable, or lovable.
 
We feel free and see choices that previously weren’t obvious to us.
 
What would you add to this list? Have you noticed any similar shifts in yourself?

​There is a part of you that always knows your truest desires even when you think you are lost. Your intuition is always guiding you towards the “right” choice.
 
Maybe you can’t hear your intuition, because the anxiety and fear and so much louder, but it IS there.
 
Here’s a journaling exercise that can help you connect to your intuition.
 
Think back to a time when you ignored your intuition. Why did you do it? What was it like to override your gut feelings? What was the outcome of this decision? How did you know that you were ignoring your truth?
 
Can you think of times when you made a decision that just felt right? How did it feel to trust yourself? What was the outcome of that decision?