If there’s anything I’ve mastered during my life, it’s the art of being a beginner. Every novice chapter I’ve entered has come with its fair share of frustration, confusion, and humility. But also fun, aliveness, and joy.

When I’m in the midst of those frustrating moments, I catch myself thinking “Why do I keep doing this to myself?!”

But the truth is — I’m not doing it to myself. I’m doing it for myself.

This year I’ve been doing some things differently. For starters, I didn’t set any goals or intentions. No word of the year.

Stepping into your 30s is the perfect time to stop putting up with what drains your energy and start building a life that feels true to you. In this post, we’ll cover 13 things to stop tolerating in your 30s and beyond — from unhealthy relationships to self-sabotaging habits — so you can create more peace, joy, and purpose. Whether you’re turning 30 or well into the decade, these mindset shifts and boundaries will help you protect your time, honor your values, and live on your own terms.

We tend to think that making the "right" decision should feel good—clear, affirming, maybe even a little empowering. But the truth is, good decisions are often inconvenient. They interrupt our comfort, require effort, and ask us to tolerate discomfort in the service of something more meaningful. Whether it's setting a boundary, committing to therapy, or choosing rest over productivity, the choices that move us forward rarely come wrapped in ease. But that doesn’t mean they’re wrong—it usually means they matter.