Always ask yourself first. Questions about your life are not for anyone but you to answer. Decisions are yours to make and if those decisions take you down the path you don’t like, you can always make another decision.

Comparison is a sneaky soul sucker.

​When you compare yourself to others, you zoom in on one single aspect of someone’s life that you believe is better than yours.

You will not always: know what to do, how to do it, be motivated, believe in yourself, feel confident, think you are capable, be a supportive partner, keep your cool, etc.

It's the first day of the new year.

A great time to decide what you'd like to leave behind and what you'd like to create more of. Here is my suggestion.

​Leave behind the heaviness of self-judgment, doubt, and pressure. You deserve more from yourself. 

Your past can’t show you what you’re capable of creating.
 
Most people turn towards their past to inform them what’s possible and what isn’t.

Before you determine that what you want is unrealistic or too damn big, remember that the only reason you think that is because it hasn’t happened in the time you thought it should happen.

What if you decided that:

• Fear of looking stupid won’t hold you back anymore?

• Potential failure isn’t a good reason not to try?

• Your greatest experiences are ahead of you?

I did it!!!
 
After 7 years of school and 2.5 years of building my private practice (which was always my dream) here I am - a Licensed Professional Counselor!

Creating an intention sets the tone and guides your decision making. Instead of setting the same ole' goal every year and giving up half way through, try to connect to the overall theme or a feeling you'd like to experience more often in the new year.

Stuckness is a state of mind, not a fact.
 
Maybe you are at crossroads, having to choose which way to go.

Maybe you’re standing still because you’re scared to make a decision and the longer you’re waiting and negotiating your options, the more stuck you feel.

Being awake to life and living it bravely sometimes means we will be faced with difficult things we didn't want or choose. It is simply the fact of life. Bad, uncomfortable, scary, unpredictable things happen.

We use the power of our imagination all the time, but we often use it to imagine scenarios that disempower us and make us feel limited.

​Any disempowering identities and negative beliefs we hold about ourselves were developed out of a necessity and adaptation to our circumstances.

When you harbor negative feelings and thoughts towards someone else, you’re not punishing them, you’re punishing yourself.

Don't be attached to your current situation. This could be just a stepping stone to something greater. You are so much bigger than any circumstance or problem you're having. 

Be mindful of the words you speak to define yourself and your situation. What you tell yourself is more often than not, not a fact. It’s simply a story. If it’s a painful one - change it or reframe it.

I have a vivid memory of the time I said something that, in the past would take me into a full shame and self-judgment spiral. But that time, there was lightness about it. I couldn't stop laughing at myself.

There is a part of you that always knows your truest desires even when you think you are lost. Your intuition is always guiding you towards the “right” choice.
 
Maybe you can’t hear your intuition, because the anxiety and fear and so much louder, but it IS there.

Whether you’re holding onto beliefs, people, or stories that no longer reflect who you want to be, the reason behind it is fear.
 
We’re holding onto things we’ve outgrown for way too long because we’re scared of giving up something we know so we’ll, even when it feels constricting.
 

Big changes don’t just happen. They are a result of small, consistent, deliberate actions. 

Don't get discouraged by the time it may take to accomplish what you want to accomplish. Keep your long-term vision in mind and focus on what can be done each day to move towards the bigger vision.