Stepping into your 30s is the perfect time to stop putting up with what drains your energy and start building a life that feels true to you. In this post, we’ll cover 13 things to stop tolerating in your 30s and beyond — from unhealthy relationships to self-sabotaging habits — so you can create more peace, joy, and purpose. Whether you’re turning 30 or well into the decade, these mindset shifts and boundaries will help you protect your time, honor your values, and live on your own terms.

Feel guilty for choosing yourself? This post unpacks how guilt often disguises as morality, and how to trust your truth anyways.

It feels good, in the short term, to get that nod of approval, a “thank you” for your efforts, or avoiding upsetting someone. But here’s the catch: people pleasing isn’t as harmless as it seems. It’s often rooted in fear—fear of rejection, conflict, or simply not being liked. While being considerate is one thing, putting others first all the time can leave you feeling drained, unheard, and resentful.