Don’t wait for a major change.

​Instead, focus on the small things that can be completed today and will make tomorrow easier.

Look around you and focus on what’s unfinished.

We so often become slaves to our own expectations.

As we change and our life circumstances change, what once gave us motivation and energy may start feeling stale and pointless.

​You know that excitement when you have a fun trip coming up or you buy tickets to a concert or a movie you really wanted to see?

​Lately I’ve been reflecting on a concept we talked about in my life coach training: “There is not better than here.”

​From the very first session, self-awareness if one of the main capacities we aim to increase in psychotherapy.

​Just because you’re at a different point in life than someone else, it doesn’t mean that you’re behind or that you’re not making progress.

Any moment we interpret as bad or undesirable can be just that - a moment. When we feed that moment and prolong it by continuing to think about it, we turn it into a bad day, a bad week, month, and year. You don't have to carry it with you like heavy baggage. Let it be and let it go. 

Wellbeing practice can be anything that supports a greater mental strength and helps you feel anchored to yourself. The most challenging thing about these practices is remembering to actually do them and to be present with the experience. 

It all begins with an idea.

It doesn’t matter if what you believe about yourself is true. When you notice a familiar story or belief coming up, ask yourself:

1. Is this story/belief useful?

2. Is it getting me closer or further away from what I truly want for myself?

3. How do I feel when I believe this story?

​Some questions can only be answered by the future you.
 
Questions like…
 
👉 “Will it be worth it?”
 
👉 “Am I making the right decision?” or
 
👉 “Is this where I’m supposed to go next?”
 
… can only be answered in the future.

Instead of finding evidence for why you can’t do something, look for evidence for why you can. If there’s a desire in you that sparks joy, aliveness, and excitement, it is your job to move towards it and pursue it.

You don’t need a selfless reason to do something that makes you feel good.“ Just because I want to” is reason enough. Do it for you!

​Thinking about doing something is not the same as doing it.
 
The only way to become good at something is to simply do it. Not just think and dream about doing it, but actually do it, because there is no substitute for the experience.

We believe that if we accept the conditions and experiences we don't like, it means we approve of them, and that once we approve of them, we are doomed to being slaves of those conditions.

Thinking about doing something is not the same as doing it.

The only way to become good at something is to simply do it.

​Not just think and dream about doing it, but actually do it, because there is no substitute for the experience.

It is easy to focus on what other people are doing or not doing, how they are being wrong, and what they should change to accommodate our discomfort.
 
It’s much harder to be anchored in integrity and practice the very things we expect from others.

Before your habitual thoughts, states, and behaviors take over, pause for a moment to reflect on:

• How you want to feel

• What you want to focus on

• What you want to prioritize

We are not meant to live in states of overwhelm, anxiety, and lethargy.

We are meant to grow, learn, and evolve through our challenges, not be defeated by them.

Stop dwelling in what didn’t happen yesterday.
​Today you have the opportunity to try again, to be better, and to do better.