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How to Create a Wellbeing Practice
Wellbeing practice can be anything that supports a greater mental strength and helps you feel anchored to yourself. The most challenging thing about these practices is remembering to actually do them and to be present with the experience.
Exploring Beliefs & Stories
It doesn’t matter if what you believe about yourself is true. When you notice a familiar story or belief coming up, ask yourself:
1. Is this story/belief useful?
2. Is it getting me closer or further away from what I truly want for myself?
3. How do I feel when I believe this story?
Some answers can only be revealed over time.
Some questions can only be answered by the future you.
Questions like…
👉 “Will it be worth it?”
👉 “Am I making the right decision?” or
👉 “Is this where I’m supposed to go next?”
… can only be answered in the future.
Don’t become your own biggest obstacle.
Instead of finding evidence for why you can’t do something, look for evidence for why you can. If there’s a desire in you that sparks joy, aliveness, and excitement, it is your job to move towards it and pursue it.
Do it for you!
You don’t need a selfless reason to do something that makes you feel good.“ Just because I want to” is reason enough. Do it for you!
Thinking vs doing
Thinking about doing something is not the same as doing it.
The only way to become good at something is to simply do it. Not just think and dream about doing it, but actually do it, because there is no substitute for the experience.
Don't argue with reality
We believe that if we accept the conditions and experiences we don't like, it means we approve of them, and that once we approve of them, we are doomed to being slaves of those conditions.
How to Get Better at Anything
Thinking about doing something is not the same as doing it.
The only way to become good at something is to simply do it.
Not just think and dream about doing it, but actually do it, because there is no substitute for the experience.
Are you willing to be the kind of person you expect others to be?
It is easy to focus on what other people are doing or not doing, how they are being wrong, and what they should change to accommodate our discomfort.
It’s much harder to be anchored in integrity and practice the very things we expect from others.
Daily Reset
Before your habitual thoughts, states, and behaviors take over, pause for a moment to reflect on:
How you want to feel
What you want to focus on
What you want to prioritize
It's Time To Get Help
We are not meant to live in states of overwhelm, anxiety, and lethargy.
We are meant to grow, learn, and evolve through our challenges, not be defeated by them.
Gems from “The Creative Act”
Audio books can be a hit or miss for me, but this one is beautiful narrated and captivating to listen, not to mention it’s filled with wisdom and insights. Here are a few of my favorite quotes:
It’s better to follow the universe than those around you.
On Making Decisions
Do you struggle to make a decision or do you tend to ask everyone else for their opinion first?
Or maybe you feel like you know what you want but when you hear a different opinion you start questioning yourself?
Daily Reminder
It’s so tempting to believe someone has all the answers for you. But this is not the case. We have a natural tendency to avoid discomfort and want to skip through the hard stuff (no judgment, I prefer things to be easy too!).
Let This Moment Be a New Moment
Even if it feels like an experience you had in the past, you haven't lived this moment yet. Let yourself fully experience it without seeing it through the eyes of the past.
Note On Progress
Progress is when you realize you’re in a place that so many past versions of you longed to be in. It happens as a result of a work no one can do for you but yourself and there's no way around it but through.
Redefine Balance
Balance doesn't mean we equally give attention to every aspect of our life. It is about knowing what matters to us, and what our needs, values, and priorities are. The below suggestions are based on my personal 'rules' so feel free to take what resonates and adapt them in a way that makes sense to you. Redefining balance is not about forcing yourself to mimic someone else's way of living, but creating your own so it is sustainable with your lifestyle.
Staying Open to Learning About Ourselves
As soon as we start believing we know everything about ourselves, we stop learning.
Self-inquiry, curiosity, open-mindedness are some of the most powerful tools for healing and growth, because they challenge our assumptions and rigid beliefs we hold about ourselves - often beliefs that are misguiding us.