​You can only become your best self if given the right conditions, just like a seed has the potential to become the most beautiful, unique plant, but it doesn’t become so by force. It becomes so by being nurtured into it with proper care.

​We often believe that being hard on ourselves is the only way we can get to where we want to be. We think that if we loosen the grip, everything we worked hard for will crumble, and we will no longer be motivated.

​Major shifts and transformations don’t happen overnight. They are a result of consistent actions that don’t feel groundbreaking in the moment, but when repeated over time, change your life.

“It doesn’t matter if the steps you’re taking are small or large it matters if you’re having fun.”

​Stay longer in the excitement of the possibilities than in the limitations of the present. Your current situation is not forever. Don’t let it minimize your excitement for the possibilities.

Ask yourself more if you want to
rather than if you should.
 
Give yourself a choice.

Last Friday I attended the annual Women's Summit, sponsored by Kendra Scott Women's Entrepreneurial and Leadership Institute. Day was filled with inspirational and motivational speeches by incredible women.

Don’t use anyone’s success against yourself. Be inspired by it, be motivated by it, but don’t take it as an evidence that they’re better or more capable than you.

​We often follow rules for life that don’t belong to us. They have been passed onto us at an early age, but these are not our rules.

Life doesn’t start once you get to where you want to be…
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You don’t need to first heal, lose weight, learn more, achieve goals, be in a relationship, or make more money, to finally live your life. The process of “getting there” IS life.

My dream of becoming a psychotherapist was born reading this book.
 
At the time, I was a teenager living in Serbia, having no clue how non-linear my path towards that dream will be. More than a decade later, at 28 I went back to school to study psychology and continued towards master’s degree at 32.

You don’t need anyone’s permission or invitation to be who you were meant to be.
It's not anyone’s job to allow you to pursue something that was meant for you.

Your desire is your permission. 

Everything is more fun when you actively participate in it instead of just watching others participate and have all the fun: dancing, playing sports, eating, conversations, learning, and even social media. Social media is not bad - it’s completely neutral, yet some people feel drained and anxious when using it while others feel energized and inspired.

Say “yes” to opportunities that excite you, expand you, and ask you to step into a bigger role. Trust that if you weren't ready and capable, the opportunity wouldn't present itself. 

People often seek outside help wanting to get rid of unwanted feelings and various “symptoms.”
 
A lot of these “symptoms” are not so much problems to be patched up as they are invitations to see what needs to be attended to.

Every thought has the potential to create something powerful if we hold on to it long enough until we believe it. We suffer when we hold on to thoughts that make us feel like victims. Those thoughts are not any more true than thoughts that make us feel good.

​When you’re needy and desperate you don’t attract what you want, you attract what you’re afraid of.
 
When you’re desperate and needy you are scared. You’re scared you won’t get what you want or that you will lose something you have. You are in a state of lack. Abundance is not attracted to a state of lack.

Thinking about what everyone else is doing and believing they are having more fun is robbing you of enjoying your life and discovering what brings you joy!

​If you think long enough about a painful memory, you will feel as if you’re reliving it in the moment.
 
If you think long enough about an exciting future, you will feel as if it’s happening now.

​There are so many situation in which we had no choice as children. We simply lived by the rules we learned and adopted them as truths. As children, we didn’t have a choice but to be around people who kept hurting us, but as adult we do. Staying in situations and with people who are hurtful is an old rule we no longer need to live by.