Don’t waste today’s opportunities by dwelling on yesterday’s regrets. Today is the only time you can make a change. Today you can start again and try something new. Today you can face the things you’ve been avoiding. Today you respond in new ways to the same old challenges. Today you can take a new route and see where it will lead you. Your mind will want to take you down the familiar path of thinking the same unhelpful thoughts, feeling the same negative feelings, and doing the same things you did yesterday, but you don’t have to follow it. Today can be a clean slate if you let it. Stuckness is a state of mind, not a fact. Maybe you are at crossroads, having to choose which way to go. Maybe you’re standing still because you’re scared to make a decision and the longer you’re waiting and negotiating your options, the more stuck you feel. Stuckness may feel safe, but it’s an illusion of safety. It may even be comfortable because it comes with no risks, rejections, or failures. But as soon as you pick a direction (any direction) and make a decision, you will no longer feel stuck. Be honest with yourself. Let yourself know what you are scared of. Name the choices you have. Connect to the feeling of each choice. Remember that when things don’t turn out the way you hoped, you can always make a new decision. You are not a tree, you’re never really stuck. You always have the power to re-decide and choose your direction.
Some seasons of life will be more difficult than others and that’s ok. No one promised us life continuously filled with ease and comfort. Remember that you’ve experienced hardships and challenges before and found yourself on the other side. Remember that you can handle unplanned encounters and situations. Remember that you can handle whatever life brings your way. Remember that difficulties are easier when we meet them with courage, compassion, and self-trust. You’re not behind. Or falling short. You’re exactly where you need to be. Learning the lessons you need to be learning. Moving through a season you need to be moving through. Your life is not supposed to look like someone else’s life. Your life is not supposed to look like anything else other than what it looks like. Accepting this is not same as giving up. Accepting this is freedom, peace, and awareness. Resistance to this doesn’t bring you closer to a change and results you want, because resisting it means fighting with reality. Fighting takes a lot of energy and focus and the more focus you're giving it, the more you're fueling it. |
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April 2024
AuthorSladja Redner |