Reaching for something outside of ourselves to make us feel better reinforces the idea that “I shouldn’t be feeling this way,” and “something or someone other than me can make it go away” - both of which are recipes for suffering.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel better.
But, if we always seek ways to immediately feel better, we don’t give ourselves the opportunity to learn how to be with uncomfortable experiences.
We don’t give ourselves the gift of curiosity about the feeling that’s arising.
We don’t allow ourselves the full human experience. Instead, we keep running away from it.
Feeling better then becomes a quick fix, a short-term solution, a way to not feel.
Becoming better at feeling is the antidote for escaping our experiences.
Becoming better at feeling means to allow our feelings and be with the discomfort
without trying to change or escape it. This is where healing and change starts.